If, like many of us, you were socialized to accommodate others, saying no can be an uncomfortable – even radical – act. But people-pleasing can lead to resentment and burnout and often interferes with us getting our own needs met. Like any other skill, learning how to say no is a practice we can developContinue reading Saying No With Confidence
Non-Violent Communication
Many of the ways in which humans communicate can cause harm. We can be critical, judgmental, defensive, blaming, and attacking. And while this might not be our intention, we tend to be overly focused on our desires at the expense of others’ wants and needs. The good news is, we’re able to shift this focus,Continue reading Non-Violent Communication
Validate with Ease: A Step-by-Step Guide
As discussed in our prior blog, validation is a significant component to interpersonal functioning. Learning how to validate others is one thing we can do to improve our relationships across the board. Here, we’ll take a look at how to master this skill. Before we begin, it’s important to know what validation is. . .Continue reading Validate with Ease: A Step-by-Step Guide
Options for Solving Any Problem – DBT in Action
If you think about it, the human condition offers us of an almost infinite number of problems – issues with relationships, jobs, money, health, managing our homes, etc. Despite the wide range of problems we might encounter, there are a limited number of options for solving them. According to DBT, there are four possibilities forContinue reading Options for Solving Any Problem – DBT in Action
How to Apologize: A Three-Step Approach
We exist in relationship to other humans: family members, friends, colleagues, members of our communities. Inevitably, as part of existing in shared spaces, we will cause harm, even if that wasn’t our intention. Interpersonal rupture is part of the human experience. Ideally, a repair follows a rupture. Repairs make amends and can actually serve toContinue reading How to Apologize: A Three-Step Approach
