impostor syndrome

Impostor Syndrome

Are you an impostor? You’ve accomplished a decent amount in your life. You’ve succeeded professionally. You’ve contributed something to others. You’ve realized a number of your goals. Maybe, you’ve even received accolades from those around you. But, you have a sinking feeling that you’re fooling everyone. You believe that if people knew the truth, theyContinue reading Impostor Syndrome

coping with grief

Coping with Grief

Love sorrow. She is yours now, and you must take care of what has been given.  -Mary Oliver In the midst of loss, life can feel unbearable. Whether it’s the death of a family member, friend, or beloved pet; or the loss of a relationship, job, or dream; grieving the death, end, or closure toContinue reading Coping with Grief

legal drinking

Legal Drinking

Do Lawyers Drink More than Other Professionals? Over the course of 15 years of working with individuals who struggle with alcohol use disorders, I’ve heard plenty of stories of attorneys entertaining clients for hours on end, of bottles of hard liquor tucked away into desk drawers at the firm, and work cultures that normalize excessiveContinue reading Legal Drinking

OCD

Externalizing OCD

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder You’re fine one moment, and the next moment, panic sets in. You must go back and check that you locked the door, even though you checked several times before.  Or you have a growing sensation that eventually dominates your consciousness, a fear that you’ll blurt out something inappropriate at a work meeting. OrContinue reading Externalizing OCD

perfectionism

Recovering from Perfectionism

I had a mentor once, whose mentor who had instructed him, “It’s important to make five mistakes a day.” While for many, this might seem to be an easy assignment, accomplished quickly through wrong turns while driving, incorrect references in speech, maybe forgetting to throw the laundry in the dryer, perhaps an errant email spelling,Continue reading Recovering from Perfectionism

new year

Permission for the New Year

For many, the New Year is filled with cocktails and celebrations, hope and possibility, and family and friends. For others, the holiday might be difficult, potentially fraught with anxiety and regret. Part of the challenge that some of us experience might result from the expectations we typically attach to the new year – expectations ofContinue reading Permission for the New Year